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Originally Posted by ella  I do not entertain this thought to myself often but when I do, I question how I can completely move on when I still feel this way? Should I not insist on cutting off all possiblities of us being together before being truely free?
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4 weeks is not that long. You have to grieve it out, this breakup. Part of grieving is denial. That thought of being with him again is denial that it is over, really. It's not necessary to cut off the thought but to label it as denial. Then ask yourself if you want to keep the denial going. Then ask yourself what the feeling is behind having that thought. I bet you can label the feeling as desire to have a cool relationship but you can also detach that a cool relationship would be with this guy - because it looks like he decided something dumb and is either going to stay that way or revert and suck you into his "not knowing what he wants" routine that allows his parents to have a big say.