[Lola]

Tuumble, you are a dear and it's clear you are concerned for your friend.

My thoughts on this differ from the others. In my experiences of grieving significant losses, I've often had many caring and concerned friends who offered "If you need anything, just call me" which, while thoughtful, often took more action than I was capable of performing. Then I had others who just showed up and did things. Whatever needed doing, whether it be take my dogs for a walk or just sit and let me cry.

The time that has passed for your friend is insignificant. There is no arbitrary date at which time a mother should be done with grieving the loss of any child, even more so the grief and regret of aborting a child.

If she were my friend, I would show up for her. I would let her know that I know it's a hard day for her and that I'm available for her. Then, as previously stated, I would let her talk. Or not. Sometimes having someone hold our hand and not expect us to say a thing is what's most needed.

But you know better than any of us what is best for your friend.

Peace,
Lola