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Originally Posted by Tuumble  I'm just wondering whether I should say anything or let her be and deal with it in her own way. |
Only if she brings it up. And even if she does, resist the temptation to talk about it.
Really.
Two reasons:
- It was 18 years ago. She's undoubtedly heard them all, either from others or from inside her own head, for years. More words will probably not do much good, and could put her right back (emotionally) where she was years ago;
- You're not her therapist. If she's still guilt-ridden over something that she really didn't have any control over - since she was 16 at the time, she wasn't of legal age and couldn't legally make her own decisions of that sort (depending on the jurisdiction) - then the help she needs would best come from a professional.
By all means, listen if she wants to talk. But I wouldn't encourage her to do the whole "share your feelings" stuff at this point. Too much time has passed.