ProjectX, listen to me very carefully. The problem is not your past; it is not your situation in life; it is not who you are as a person right now.
The problem is the way that you are choosing to view all of it.
You are choosing to dwell on these horrible thoughts and memories. You are choosing to think these thoughts. And these thoughts are painful, so you end up feeling miserable.
Stop thinking about things that are painful to think about. Seriously look at how you think and ask yourself if there is any point to what you are doing to yourself.
If you think about how bad everything in your life is for an hour, a day, or even a month, do you think it will actually do anything to alleviate the situation in the slightest little bit?
You are not a product of your circumstances. Your history does not determine your fate.
ProjectX, you need to realize something very important, and it's that the past has no reality except in its influence upon the present.
By changing the way you think about the past, you literally change the past.
You have lived the best past that you were meant to. Accept this and then move on. Think of it as forgiveness if you don't believe in acceptance. You can even call it denial if you want. It doesn't matter.
Thinking makes you miserable, so don't think.
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