Originally Posted by Cassander
She's lied to me quite a bit although it's always been about little things.
Up until I read this line, I figured it's just one of those things that happens from time to time. People make mistakes - gawd knows I've made my share - but that doesn't make them bad people, it just means that they're human.
Then this line popped up and I began to re-think my position.
Young girls lie. Sometimes it's for a reason, sometimes there's no reason for it whatsoever. But when it becomes a pattern and involves others (such as yourself) then there's clearly a character issue here that needs examining.
For me personally, I'd probably be able to forgive a one-night mistake, but a consistent pattern of deceit is something else entirely.
*here comes the hardass part*
By staying with her and essentially putting up with the lying, you're basically giving her permission to lie and walk all over you.
She's being disrespectful to you. Do you deserve to be lied to?
If you don't do anything about it, it will get worse. I PROMISE you it will get worse.
Take a stand. Man up. Tolerate no lies, big or small. She'll undoubtedly cry and try to push all the buttons. Have none of it. It's manipulation, pure and simple. Tell her and show her you mean business, clearly and concisely, and that it's a deal-breaker. One more and you're finished. And if she does, follow through and don't look back.