Hi,
Although I am sure it is fairly obvious to many students of self-development/self-improvment it has only really recently occured to me that in order to achieve my goals I must have the correct beliefs. Indeed I am sure many of us have heard it many times.
However its ok to read this, understand this but for me putting this into practise has been quite problematic.
For example as I examine some of my goals I realise that my goals and my beliefs are completely out of alignment. What do I mean by this? Well I'll be totally honest here. One of my goals is the following.
"I am in a deeply meaningful and fulfilling relationship with a stunning wonderful girl"
The goal is clear and precise and attainable. However the whole area of woman and dating has been problematic for me. Its only when I examine my beliefs that I have begun to realise why it is a problematic area.
Here are some limiting beliefs that I have been carrying around in my head for a long time.
I am unattractive to the opposite sex, I am not worthy of a beautiful girl, meeting and attracting woman is a painful and difficult experience.
With these beliefs, its no wonder I have had problems!!!
Well at least now I have recognised that these beliefs are not serving me. Here are the new beliefs I want to install.
"I am attractive" "I am naturally attractive to woman" "Meeting and approaching woman is fun and easy"
My question is how do I get the beliefs installed in my head so they become just that, my actual beliefs?
So far, everytime I have one of my old limiting beliefs I automatically replace it with a new positve one. EG "I am unattractive" gets replaced with "I am attractive"
This is going ok but I still don't really believe in my new beliefs. Its like the words are empty even though I say them with emphasis.
I hope this makes sense. Really I am trying to completely recondition my brain and would appreciate any comments.
