Hi Chado
Sorry to hear that you are unhappy. Without specific details of your situation it is hard to comment - however I have put together some general thoughts about things I have found out during my own quest for happiness. And yes I used EFT and more recently NLP because they do work.
1. For deeply ingrained issues it may take time to find the root cause. Because it is so deeply ingrained it isn't easy to spot and also most likely has a load of other issues tangled round it which need to be fixed first.
2. You can achieve what you want - however it may be that you deal with one big issue, plateau for a bit, deal with another, have a rest, pick up and deal with another.... it may need time and perseverance to get there.
3. Working with someone who understands how to dig deeply and won't let you off the hook is the best present you can give yourself. When working on your own it is too easy to avoid difficult subjects or not even realise they are there.
4. Even if you do work with someone you have to stick at it. I know so many practitioners who say that after a few successful sessions they realise their client is probably going to to make a major breakthrough in their next session. Suddenly the client cancels the session, doesn't turn up etc. It's like the client subconsciously knows things will change in that session and is freaked out by the reality of it. Where do you back off from making major changes in your life?
5. The work you do between sessions is just as important as the sessions themselves. Doing a few rounds of EFT each week, but not consciously choosing to focus on gratitude, love, abundance inbetween means that progress towards happiness will be very slow. What did you do between each EFT or NLP session?
6. When using EFT it is so important to get your issues to zero. Going from a 10 to a 4 might feel a bit better in the session, but it is still at a 4. It means the issue is still there and in your life and will still be tangled up in other issues and showing up in your life. Making a commitment to get each major issue to zero will have the effect of toppling lots of other little issues along the way. Are you sure that when you used EFT you got each aspect you worked on to zero, or did you just get it to go down a point or two?
7. EFT is touted as an instant cure. In the case of single issue phobias this can be true. (i.e. biten by dog as child, now has phobia of dogs). In my own case I completely cleared a major trauma in a 2 hour session. However that didn't mean there weren't loads of other things to tap on before I reached my goal. A friend of mine has a notebook and crossed out are 4000 separate issues that she has cleared with EFT and she is still tapping on new issues every day and she is one of the happiest and most relaxed people I know. Are you expecting it to be an instant transformation?
8. I found I get really excited when I stumble upon another limiting belief because it means I can clear it and make a change in my life. How do you feel when you find you have a limiting belief? What limiting beliefs have you already identified?
9. Is it true that you are always unhappy? 100% of the time - no exceptions? Does nothing bring a smile to your face or would you laugh if I told you a joke? If you can laugh and be happy even for a minute how will you expand on that state and have it in your life?
10. As yourself what you get out of being unhappy. What is the state of being unhappy protecting you from? What does it mean that you don't have to face up to. What don't you have to do if you are unhappy that you would have to do if you were happy?
You asked for a formula.
- decide what you want to get out of life. Make it real and meaningful for you (not someone else's ideas for you)
- keep focus on what you want - be excited about it
- notice where negative thoughts creep in about your goals (there be your blocks)
- remove those blocks
- keep being grateful for what you already have
- ensure that you take a small step everyday that takes you towards your goal
- take several big leaps as well
- have a support network around you that supports and encourages you to achieve what you want.
You can do it - keep going!
mmm - think I might blog this post!
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