[Cassander]

My girlfriend and I started dating just after graduation this summer. We really liked eachother. Over the summer I was working out of state in CA and she was working in WV at a summer camp. I wrote her about 2 - 3 times a week, sometimes more. She wrote me about once or twice a week usually so everything was good.

Then one time when I said I love you over the phone she responded with "Same here" instead of actually saying it back. That was kinda strange I told her that I missed her to which she responded "same here". Finally at the end of the conversation I said "I love you" again to which she responded "same here". She never uses those words. Anyway I could hear her friends in the background and I got the feeling that she didn't want the people to know that she was talking to her boyfriend. I felt rather uncomfortable but hey, I figured I was just being retarded and over reacting so I didn't ask her anything. Anyway I got home finally after working out in CA all summer and I had a letter from this dude she had been working with all summer and it said that my girlfriend had cheated on me with him. He wrote a full length letter saying that he was sorry, but she had told him that she was single and all this.

My girlfriend says that she made him mad and he was just trying to get back at her. Then later she said that she didn't remember what happened but that she had been drunk.

I found it a little strange that he would write me.

I also find it strange that she refuses to talk about it and tells me I'm holding it over her head if I bring it up.

I haven't talked to her about it in a long time and I thought I'd just get over it, but I feel really betrayed every time I think about it.

I dunno, I just feel like she's not being honest with me sometimes and it really bothers me. She's lied to me quite a bit although it's always been about little things.

Should I be worried or am I just over reacting? Please help