@Ilya
wow, thanks for the details. I read your story thrice. But I'm not sure what message to take from it as far as my strategy is concerned. What was the lesson learnt by you: experience fom premarital sex helped you get your fiance' / wife's through sexual problem and the incompatibility?
@Angela,
hey, sex talk anytime is interesting
There is no girl in the picture yet. But I definately plan to use your tips before the wedding night.
{Aside from the original topic, I'm just really wondering after all these years of abstaining, on whether to let go of those religious beliefs (against pe-marital sex) and aspiration (of having sex only with someone I love) to have casual sex if it'll counter the pain of an uncurable sexual incompatibility. Nothing sounds worse to a virgin than reaching that finish line and it turns out to be a nightmare after so much faith, discipline and effort}