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Originally Posted by striving4peace  How real is the problem of sexual incompatibility? Is it something you can always overcome with communication and improvement? |
My answer: NO, you cannot always overcome it. That's true for me, I don't know about others. But I could not have sex with anyone.
First there are people I am not sexually attracted to. Even if I find them beautiful, cute, charming, ... everything, sex would be impossible. Hormones? dunno.
Then there are people I am sexually attracted too, but then, when we try it, the characters are too different. For instance imagine the one loves very tender, romantical sex, in the bed, with kissing and stroking... and the other one wants some wild sex on the floor or on the kitchen table, with a lot of dirty talking, toys and bondage games. I mean, imagine they want that not only once, but as a general tendency. Having sex together would be a major turn-off for both of them. And how do you want to fix such a problem with communication and improvement?? The one will always be frustrated and the other one bored, no matter how much both try to be what they are not...
Last but not least there are very physical incompatibilities (incompatible sizes of sexual organs for instance) that can make having sex together unpleasant or even painful.