Very real problem. Both partners have to be 100% honest about likes and dislikes, and yes, there are instances where it's unfixable, usually when one or both (or all, heh) are unwilling to renegotiate.
I had a partner who simply would not discuss sex. He would only use one position and he would not talk during sex. As I told him, if we can't discuss it, then it can't get better, and I wasn't happy...
I recommend just being sexually open. Date people you like, and when you feel like you trust and know the person, then test the goods. Decide how important sex is to you, and ask the other person how much it matters to them. If your libidos or sexual styles aren't close, then the relationship has to be worked on.
Why are you asking? Are you afraid of something?
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