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Old 10-22-2007, 07:48 AM   #22 (permalink)
JimOfferman
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There's an important lesson in your last post: by being pushy and childish, you got you what you wanted in the short term, but you lost out on the long term relationship. You were demanding, not requesting, love and by doing that you wore the guy out.

It's an honest mistake that is rooted in insecurity. You were insecure about the relationship, so you demanded proof from him to build your security with. That just doesn't work.

The upshot here is that, if you learn to be more secure about yourself in a relationship, you will find the kind of love you long for - maybe not with the notes, like he did, but with some other loving gesture that'll make you feel wonderful. The trick, though, is to never be demanding. Ask, politely, to be loved and you shall receive! Also, never again doubt that you are worthy of being loved. You really are more than good enough to be with someone and you do deserve a loving relationship.

Having said all that, you really have to let go of the past - including this guy you so desperately want to hold on to. Let him go with love.
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