Unfortunately this issue is not simply answered. How you deal with this is going to be determined by your purpose. Do you want to get to the real bedrock bottom of it? The TRUTH? or avoid ever having to feel this way again?
Here is what I see. When someone says something that can be considered negative, it will have no effect on me unless there is something in me that can be "hooked" by it. The only reason we can be "hooked" by anything is that we have unhealed emotional issues. The only thing that "letting go" or seeing it as "unreal" or "letting it pass through you" will do is untrigger you. Yes, you can feel better by dropping into absolute objectivity.
But, if you want to actually get to the bottom of your emotional trigger-able issues, then you must allow the emotion to arise fully within you with an attitude of acceptance and even appreciation. Find out what part of you (woundedness) is reacting to the situation. Allow it to be OK and allow it to communicate its pain until you can appreciate it and that part of you can FEEL it and release its burden.
This is VERY deep work and takes a bit of practice. It is not like "letting go". It is a couple steps deeper and more foundationally powerful.
Please contact me if you have any interest in learning how to do this deep inner healing work. The end result is quite unimaginable.
