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uberinquisitive · 10-21-2007, 02:22 AM

Hmm...you seem to have symptoms of borderline personality disorder.

Let's talk about you, and just you, for a second. Your behavior is extremely destructive, and I am worried about your physical safety. Threatening suicide is NEVER acceptable behavior. Threatening to hurt yourself is very troubling.

I highly suggest you have weekly Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) sessions with a professional. EFT can be done very successfully over the phone, so you're not limited by geography. EFT helped me recover from my boyfriend's suicide in January, and helped tremendously with my own borderline personality.

I cannot stress enough the importance of regular therapy. A regular therapist in Sweden would be very helpful also.

Rachel Reiland's "Get Me Out of Here" describes the journey and recovery of a very borderline personality woman.

I suggest you read the following books to help you regain internal balance:
Byron Katie's "Loving What Is"
Pema Chodron's "When Things Fall Apart" You can also watch a free online video interview of Chodron here.

Now, about your boyfriend...you are VERY lucky that your heart is breaking. You now have motivation to really grow up and become a better person. You obviously know you have a lot of work to do.

You are full of regret now. Good...use it to get better. Use the regret to get serious, heavy-duty therapy.

Your ex-bf...he is gone forever. I am very sorry that you are in pain. He is not coming back, and right now, he shouldn't - you have threatened suicide in front of him, stalked him, and otherwise acted in ways that have caused him a lot of pain. He is very strong to walk away from a destructive relationship.

If you get a lot of therapy and try to get better, you will meet someone in the future who you love as much, if not more, than this boyfriend.

10-21-2007, 02:22 AM	#10 (permalink)
uberinquisitive Senior Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Posts: 634	Hmm...you seem to have symptoms of borderline personality disorder. Let's talk about you, and just you, for a second. Your behavior is extremely destructive, and I am worried about your physical safety. Threatening suicide is NEVER acceptable behavior. Threatening to hurt yourself is very troubling. I highly suggest you have weekly Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) sessions with a professional. EFT can be done very successfully over the phone, so you're not limited by geography. EFT helped me recover from my boyfriend's suicide in January, and helped tremendously with my own borderline personality. I cannot stress enough the importance of regular therapy. A regular therapist in Sweden would be very helpful also. Rachel Reiland's "Get Me Out of Here" describes the journey and recovery of a very borderline personality woman. I suggest you read the following books to help you regain internal balance: Byron Katie's "Loving What Is" Pema Chodron's "When Things Fall Apart" You can also watch a free online video interview of Chodron here. Now, about your boyfriend...you are VERY lucky that your heart is breaking. You now have motivation to really grow up and become a better person. You obviously know you have a lot of work to do. You are full of regret now. Good...use it to get better. Use the regret to get serious, heavy-duty therapy. Your ex-bf...he is gone forever. I am very sorry that you are in pain. He is not coming back, and right now, he shouldn't - you have threatened suicide in front of him, stalked him, and otherwise acted in ways that have caused him a lot of pain. He is very strong to walk away from a destructive relationship. If you get a lot of therapy and try to get better, you will meet someone in the future who you love as much, if not more, than this boyfriend.