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Originally Posted by Holistic Star  I think you know the answer to your question even though you don't like it. You have to give him up. Sorry, but there it is. He says he can't be pushed into loving you. Fighting for him isn't going to work. You have been trying that and it isn't working.
I really feel for you. I've been there and it hurts it really does. If you want him to have any respect for you, or have any peace of mind, then you must stop contacting him.
The question is how:
Delete his phone number from your phone.
Delete his email and msn contact details.
You will need to get your friends to support you. Is there a friend you can ring at any time when you feel the urge to contact him.
Keep writing your feelings down. Handwrite, rather than type and keep writing and writing until you have got it all out of your system. Then throw it away (don't send it to him!)
I would also suggest that you look at speaking with a couseller or coach to work though your feelings. I found EFT invaluable in getting over my ex. I will send you a document on how to do it if you like.
You realise that you have learned a lot recently. That is good. Focus on what you have learned and how you will apply it to your life. |
Dear Holistic Star,
Thanks so much for your reply. Yes. I would love to have and EFT also, if you can send it to me.
Yes. I was so upset that i did not contact him for one month. He then contacted me last Saturday.
We had a very relaxing and nice talk for 40 minutes, and he told me he still cares me a lot. When he said he had to go after talking, i did not even ask him what he was gonna do. (I always ask before, and he never told me before.) However, last week, he even told me he was gonna take a shower and watch foodball with somebody. I was so excited that i thought he got soft? So stupid me started to send him emails and messages and call him like crazy. He then sent me another email telling me that his biggest worry of talking to me the day before was that I would thought it means more than it does.
The reason that I have not replied your emails and text messages for along time, is that you keep ignoring it when I tell you that we are over and will not get back together. My biggest worry talking to you yesterday was that you would think that it means something more than it does. That you immediately will start sending me messages and calling and emailing all the time, because I have fought so hard to get you to stop that. But this is excactly what you did. You showed me very vclearly, that I cannot talk with you as a friend, you refuse to believe that I am only a friend. Since you refuse to listen to my words, like you always have, you are forcing me to show you the only way that I can, which is not to accept emails, calls and messages. Maybe in some weeks we can try to chat again if by then you finnally start listening to what I say instead of making up the world you want. But for now, dont contact me, I will erase messages and emails from you, and not receive your calls. ACCEPT IT WE ARE OVER! SOrru to be harsh but you keep ignoring what I say.
Your friend
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After i got this email, i deleted all the messages he sent me before and all his emails before and my MSN space with more than 1000 pics of us, and all his familiy's numbers and his number. I decided to move on.
However, only in one week, i found out i still am in love with him, and it was me who really abused his love too much before. I once use knife to threaten him to see whether he will leave me. I was crazy. His tolerance to me is really... He told me before, if i treat any guy from Scandinavia culture or Wetern culture, they will scream and run the first day i behave crazily. He just loved me too much before. But now his love is died.
That's why after one week, now i still think i may try to fight for his love, if there was such a strong love between us before. Isn't there any hope at all?