On the flip side, someone who put much of his attention on driving the most expensive car, wearing the finest threads, eating in the fanciest restaurants, is also sending messages about who he is likely to be in a relationship.
I, for one, wouldn't tend to be attracted to someone who makes those things a big priority in his life.
Taking care of yourself and indulging yourself are not quite the same thing. Which is not to say that you shouldn't indulge yourself with all or any of your desires -- that's a perfectly valid choice -- but ranking materialistic self-indulgence as one of your highest values won't resonate with my own values in a romantic relationship. I suspect that many women feel the same as I do, but I also suspect men often doubt that.
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