Why do you *have* to get married? Religions and laws aside, I don't see marriage as anything else besides a title of officalness. Official to who, God and the State? I can understand that, but besides making it official, why is there an urge to get married? (I also understand being of one, joining together, etc etc, but beliefs aside) Can't you do the exact same things as being in a steady relationship? I know all the little goodies like saying you're husband and wife, and the wedding, and rings, etc, but wouldn't you say a month after the wedding, the novelty is over?
I can understand pressure and traditions, don't get me wrong. But what's the hurry? Everyone has their goals, and if getting settled down and married is one of them, great. Just trying to bring up some points.
I'm young and I totally understand what you're talking about. If leave her, and party, then decide you want her back, it'll be too late. But if you stay, you miss you on all the fun you could of had with other girls. That's pretty much it; being sexual with other girls is the only thing that should be limited. If being with her restricts you to a point where you're unhappy, something's wrong. Hell, you may find she likes other women too, you never know.
Just playing devil's advocate here. I know putting beliefs aside is not realistic, but I'm trying to make you think.
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