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Originally Posted by Parthon  Reply to Andy but really for everyone:
I think it goes back to the famous quote: Give me the serenity to accept what I cannot change, the courage to change what I can, and the wisdom to tell one from the other.
Does this shed some more light on it? |
I know acceptance is the key. But its easier said than done. Even if it happened a week ago or a month ago, or a year ago or even a decade. Sometimes I need to know why this happened, I need a reason. I wish I was simple minded cause I think way too much. That desire for reason is so strong, and when the mind can't find it it gets even more depressed.
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Originally Posted by Amandaaa maybe you should try thinking small? like, focus on what you need to do to get through this week. (what can you do tomorrow to make yourself have a good day?) 
it's good to be able to visualize your long-term plans, but if that seems too overwhelming right now, then focus on your short-term plans. make a list. (like, Step 1, Step 2, Step 3). plot out the direction that you want your life to start heading, and then concentrate on the little steps in-between.
(..or, focus on just one goal. like studying. maybe you should just start studying harder, so that you make As in your classes, so that you get into a school that you like, so that you'll feel more confident, so that you'll have less social anxiety, so that you start going out and having fun, and you start feeling like you're on top of your game...) ?
good luck. |
I goto class in the morning then perhaps workout in the afternoon. But its the period afterwards, when I'm alone studying in my room or in the library is when the melancholy sets in. Usually its worst right before bedtime, when the mind is least busy that really really kills.
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Originally Posted by C33 ... you don't have to have achieved certain things at a certain age. You can find success and fullfilment at any age. If you have your health to yourself, feel blessed.
People who believe that they must settle down quickly, have a great job, find their spouses before 25 and join the "white picket fence" fantasy, are more likely to provide law abiding, tax paying citizens for a society that feeds on people who work/consume/die. What you perceive as the normal, happy life may be a life that would have you running for Prozac in no time.
Also, these people that you think are so carefree and happy now might be living their finest hour at 23, and become the pitiful people in midlife who talk about their glory days in college. |
i'm sorry, not saying you're totally wrong but I believe thats just a myth. Its similar to the belief that all jocks in highschool turn out to be slobs while the geeks turn out to be millionaires. Its just a story.
EDIT: Another thing, I'm seeing a therapist soon and probably will be taking medication. I just want to know how the medication help. Like will it make me forget my past. Because I wake up every morning feeling really really bad memories about being bullied and thoughts about how bad my life is to point that it just paralyze me from getting out of bed.