Reply to Andy but really for everyone:
I think it goes back to the famous quote: Give me the serenity to accept what I cannot change, the courage to change what I can, and the wisdom to tell one from the other.
Serenity in this example is a result and an action, when you use your wisdom to say "Yes, there are a great number of things in my life that I cannot change, including my past and my present." and you are willing to just let it be just like that, you will find serenity.
The next step is even more wisdom, as you start to accept all those things you can't change, you begin to see those things you can. The small steps that will change the future. As you start off there might be very few, as you might feel helpless, but optomistic, and as your courage grows, so does the number of things you can change, until you feel like you can change anything given enough time.
What will also help is knowing the mental traps that stop wisdom. These are those situations where you feel helpless, where you should be able to change it but can't or where you could change it but are afraid to. Thses include wanting desperately to change the past, worrying about what other people think of you, worrying about the future, or feeling bad about your current situation. Bringing the awesome power of the truth to them changes the situation and gives you wisdom, when you can accept that you can't change it, or give yourself the courage to do what's needed.
Why accept things? Only because it opens up the area of what you can and can't change, giving you the power to make those changes in the areas that you want to. As soon as you know where to go to work, and not just why or how, that's when you gain power it making changes.
Does this shed some more light on it?
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