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TeeZee · 10-14-2007, 10:28 PM

Hope you don't feel overwhelmed with advice, because that can also be confusing. I, like others who have posted, have the same challenges in life. I discovered my challenging thoughts many many years ago and have spent a very long time trying to make peace with them.

What I have discovered is that the negativity and destructive comparisons really boil down to self-hate, and though it is a part of my mind, it isn't my mind in it's entirety. Through a lifetime of depression and self-downing, I have had amazing experiences and done things that most will never try.

So, it would be a very good idea to find a counsellor or therapist very soon. If someone wants to put you on pills, make sure they ask you a lot of questions, because this shows that they are taking the time required to find out what would work best for you.

Of course, exercise and eating right are also parts of the solution.

There are so many self-help books out there and I've read them all. One person who understands the self-hating mind is a zen teacher named Cheri Huber. She has many books and a radio show where she points out to people how some of our thoughts undermine us and how not to fall for it time and again. Google her and see if what she says makes sense to you.

Good luck and it seems like there are many people here who are interested in helping.

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TeeZee Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Toronto Posts: 15	One more Hope you don't feel overwhelmed with advice, because that can also be confusing. I, like others who have posted, have the same challenges in life. I discovered my challenging thoughts many many years ago and have spent a very long time trying to make peace with them. What I have discovered is that the negativity and destructive comparisons really boil down to self-hate, and though it is a part of my mind, it isn't my mind in it's entirety. Through a lifetime of depression and self-downing, I have had amazing experiences and done things that most will never try. So, it would be a very good idea to find a counsellor or therapist very soon. If someone wants to put you on pills, make sure they ask you a lot of questions, because this shows that they are taking the time required to find out what would work best for you. Of course, exercise and eating right are also parts of the solution. There are so many self-help books out there and I've read them all. One person who understands the self-hating mind is a zen teacher named Cheri Huber. She has many books and a radio show where she points out to people how some of our thoughts undermine us and how not to fall for it time and again. Google her and see if what she says makes sense to you. Good luck and it seems like there are many people here who are interested in helping.