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Originally Posted by moonstar  As I talked about in another thread, I consider myself to be a "smart" person who continues to do stupid things. I know EXACTLY what i'm supposed to do to "succeed" in life, but I just can't be bothered to do them....
2. I'm currently in some family circumstances that cause me a lot of stress. I know that if I don't interfere in these family circumstances and just mind my own business/ignore the situation my stress will be reduced. BUT knowing this I continue to participate.
What i'm trying to say is that people who aren't neccessarily considered "smart" can probably get a lot done in life by simplying having the motivation and dedication to do so. |
I disagree.
You need to beat yourself up in a different way :-)
You are intellectually "smart", but my guess is that you are incorrect in your expectations of what you can achieve and this is where you are not being "smart".
"I know EXACTLY what i'm supposed to do to "succeed" in life..."
I have a sneaking suspicion this is the inaccurate belief.
Take dieting, 100% of "smart" people can tell you what they SHOULD be doing, but those methods have a 95% failure rate at 5 years. Good in theory, hopeless in real life. "Smart" thinking is wrong!
You said, "I know that if I don't interfere in these family circumstances and just mind my own business/ignore the situation my stress will be reduced." Really? Sounds like the stuff HAS to be resolved, not just ignored, and you actually don't know HOW to solve it.
When people come to me for motivation the FIRST question I ask in my own mind is whether they are motivating themselves to do useful things ie if they get motivated are they going to be better off LONG-TERM, or will they just end up disappointed again (gym memberships come to mind.)
Usually when they are asking for motivation they had it before but it wore out. The best question for me to ask is WHY it wore out, and often it was because they were doing the psychological equivalent of bashing their head against a brick wall that they are still thinking will fall down.
Oh, and "shoulds" are more likely to be "should NOTs".
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