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Originally Posted by yacapo  I think you might have missed my point. I was in no way trying to compare the joy of having kids to the joy of having a business. What I was saying was that we need to take care of ourselves first before taking care of others. I don't think it's right to have your kids be the only thing you live for. Your life has to be good on its own, I think.
If you are one of those that has both, then that's good for you. I was talking about the ones with no goals in life, who live through their children. I think I can be a much better parent if my life had meaning before my kid was born. That makes me a much better person and I can teach my kid how to make something of him or herself. I would like for him to have some goals other than have kids himself.
My only point is that if we are bored with our lives, we need to be able to solve that problem with something other than kids. I'm not saying we shouldn't have kids. I'm saying kids should be an addition to an already fulfilling life. |
Well my opinion is and always has been that if you wait until you are ready in ALL ways(finanically, emotionally, etc.) then its likely you wouldn't EVER have kids. Just my opinion. But when you have them you just make do. Sure it seems like this huge cost both finanically and in lifestyle but really things work out with a little scheduling. Sure you miss them but from someone that has been home with the "kids" all day and thought that is what I wanted it can get to where being 24/7 mom and dad is worse than being gone to a job out of the home. Sure they are there and know you are there but unless your Internet business requires little work you will always have time away from them. Work no matter where you are WILL take time away from the "kids".
I can understand the thoughts behind that though and if you aren't ready in ANY sense of prepardness then by all means wait. I had them too but looking back I'm glad I didn't wait. I had this conversation(years ago) with my hubby and after he thought about it he agreed.