What do you really want? Like really, if you could have anything, without the fear you're obviously experiencing: Do you want to bang girls every night? If you do, then persue that course...vigorously. Go out a set number of times a week and talk to a set number of girls, at least in the beginning. And be a closer.
If you don't want that, totally cool. But what do you want? Admit it to yourself, don't just settle. I get that "I'm settling for less," tone from your post.