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Originally Posted by Nelson  What I'm saying is that there is more than one way to skin a cat. |
Let's skin the following cat:
Imagine a boss and his employee. The employee thinks the boss is an insensitive, manipulative jerk. The employee wants/desires/intends the boss to change and become a nicer person. The boss thinks the employee is lazy and unappreciative of his goodwill towards him. The boss wants/desires/intends the employee to change and become more appreciative.
For the SR folks, let's assume these two people exist at your office. You are an outsider watching. You don't have any interest in how this conflict is resolved. In fact, this is a real life example for me. Assuming I am the only conscious being here, why did I create this conflict and how would I resolve it? Who is going to change? Who's intention wins out?
It looks like no matter how you skin the cat, all of the parties involved won't get what they want simultaneously.
Maybe the answer is that one must be able to distinguish between intention and attachment.
If you want to have a million dollars, there are lots of ways to do that. If you want to get there specifically by "winning the lottery", now you are attached.
Let's say you want to have a pretty, understanding, sweet, loving girl or guy in your life (for whatever reason), but when you want that specific guy/girl over there, now you are attached.
So perhaps the magic is that you create the plan and let the specifics handle themselves without getting attached to what specifics should fulfill your plan.