[RT Wolf]

Read The Law of Attraction by the Hickses or The Law of Attraction by Michael Losier, those books have your answers, which are basically this:

Allowing (or Expecting) is a key step in manifestation. There are sometimes subconscious beliefs and doubts that occur that prevent you from being in a state of full Allowing. The Hicks' explore the idea that that better you feel, the more you are Allowing, so they encourage you to feel better.

It's all about allowing and resisting. The Sedona Method, for example, encourages you to let go of resistance AND the desire (which has a feeling of lack IN it). The feeling of pure desire is different.

So there's two parts: the wanting of something and the expecting or Allowing of it, and both these parts have to be balanced. You can have a weak wanting (IE, just thinking that would be cool or having just a thought about it) and a strong belief or just a large state of Allowing, and the thing would manifest.

Essentially, it sounds like you're facing the problem I am. I'm trying to control everything (that's the trap of the level of courage) and I'm trying too hard. If any of you have done sports, you might know of the concept of "trying too hard" and not making it every time. Once you relax and let go of your need to control (Sedona Method has been helpful to me for doing this in particular), its easier to manifest things. Essentially, let go and trust that the universe will create it. But also be ok that if it does not, and this whole IM business doesn't work (those doubts are very real, and I have a feeling that some forum members are manifestations of the collective doubts of those trying this system of belief out), then that's ok and you'll just go on to the next thing. Eventually if you make a pattern out of risking and trying new things, you'll hit on something that will indeed be very useful.

Basically, imagine that you're driving a car, and the car's your desire. The more you want it (the stronger the desire), the faster your car goes. Now imagine that there's a whole bunch of obstacles in front of you as you drive your car. Your speed is great enough that you can just barrel right through them, but it slows you down, too. Those obstacles are resistance, whether that be doubt, disbelief, limiting beliefs. However, if you removed these obstacles from your path (by Allowing) and reached a total state of Allowing, then you could get to your end point with a much lower speed just cause there's no obstacles.

Now here's the irony, by driving the car faster, you increase the number of obstacles, too, because that's the skill level with IM we're at. I think the analogy's done its work now. Basically, our feeling of "strong desire" basically means to become more attached to the subject, and the more attached we become the greater resistance we add.

My understanding is that what Max Power talks about choice being the manifester is true, but it presupposes that the person is in a full state of Allowing, at least in that moment.

We're also complicating the hell out of it, cause, personally, I love things to be more complicated. I've to learn to be ok with simplicity as well. Relax. Get playful. Life's a game. So what if I don't become a millionaire by 30? Just the thought of it or the imagining of it makes me feel more joyous. Focus and appreciate and relax. Stop trying so hard.

Whew, long post, but I hope this helps.