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Originally Posted by ripcurly  i was just saying this yesterday. i analyze everything, and even the most wonderful event i could analyze and have dark thoughts creep in until in my mind i completely screwed everything up (in this case it is a girl that i know shares the feeling that our time spent together was awesome, but just a couplle weeks of not talking to her and her not returning a call just makes me wonder and worry etc).
also, being incredibly intelligent (this is not boasting, it is just an honest statement, and anyways its not anything to be proud of really as i was born with this and did not work for it), i find that i dont study hard or work very hard and i get a's and b's without trying. i know people that arent as smart as me who get perfect gpa's and try their absolute hardest. that is so much more an important lesson than not trying and being basically given a good grade.
its a blessing and a curse really. i guess i just need to turn that curse part into motivation to use my blessing to the absolute best of my ability. and i am doing this, it jsut takes some time for me to get used to it. |
Sadly, I've been there too man. The only cure for that over-thinking is to occupy your mind in something else. I know its ridiculous, and I know its much easier said than done, but thats what it takes. I give you props, I've stressed myself out over not talking to someone I had an interest in for a a day or two. Luckily, I realize how insane my thoughts are at times, and I keep them to myself, otherwise I'm not sure I'd have to worry about wondering what women thought.
Also sadly, I've been there with regards to the not-trying. I've improved a bit in the last few years, and actually have just returned to school, so I can say it does (or can) get better. The real problem is I still have no desire to spend any time on any subject that doesn't interest me. So what I had to do was slowly broaden my horizons, appending to the bottom of the "Interested subjects" list whilst simultaneously decreasing the subjects I wasn't interested in.
Your best bet, or maybe I should say what worked for me, was asking someone who was truly interested in a subject to "convert" me. Most people relished the opportunity to talk about their interests, and I enjoyed the interaction. Give it a shot!
P.S. I usually equate being born with intelligence and being arrogant about it to being arrogant about having won the lottery. Metaphorically, it's pretty accurate. We have no control over our IQ, we didn't work for it, we didn't earn it. I try to use it to the best of my ability, but realizing its not a trophy on my mantle helps keep me grounded.