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eblight · 10-05-2007, 10:48 PM

I am trying to “live my best life.” I am about to finish up training for a career, but I am not as talented as I would like to be. So I’m back to square one.

How do I not compare myself to others? Quote

The fact that you are trying implies struggle. Build on all the strengths you already have. Sit down and write them out. Make affirmations around them, for example, "I am a brilliantly creative and talented person." Focus and concentrate on all the best about yourself consistently every day. It is only the mind after all that is influencing you and you can change your thoughts.
This is a tough one but make a conscious decision to stop comparing yourself to others. You will notice that as soon as you do this you will not feel your energy, self esteem and confidence draining away. Our society is bent on comparisons. It so often starts in childhood when we are compared to our siblings or at school when the whole system is based on comparisons. As soon as you start comparing yourself to others, become aware of what you are doing. Don't beat yourself up, just change the thoughts. Keep a diary and as you go through the day write down your comparisons. Next to that write down the very opposite. For example, "I'm not as clever as...." to "I'm clever and perfect just the way I am."
Go well.

10-05-2007, 10:48 PM	#4 (permalink)
eblight Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: New Zealand Posts: 172	Making comparisons I am trying to “live my best life.” I am about to finish up training for a career, but I am not as talented as I would like to be. So I’m back to square one. How do I not compare myself to others? Quote The fact that you are trying implies struggle. Build on all the strengths you already have. Sit down and write them out. Make affirmations around them, for example, "I am a brilliantly creative and talented person." Focus and concentrate on all the best about yourself consistently every day. It is only the mind after all that is influencing you and you can change your thoughts. This is a tough one but make a conscious decision to stop comparing yourself to others. You will notice that as soon as you do this you will not feel your energy, self esteem and confidence draining away. Our society is bent on comparisons. It so often starts in childhood when we are compared to our siblings or at school when the whole system is based on comparisons. As soon as you start comparing yourself to others, become aware of what you are doing. Don't beat yourself up, just change the thoughts. Keep a diary and as you go through the day write down your comparisons. Next to that write down the very opposite. For example, "I'm not as clever as...." to "I'm clever and perfect just the way I am." Go well.