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Originally Posted by quoteguy  I needed to read this today. I have been putting to much stake in the outcome instead of letting the Universe do it's work. Thanks for the reminder y'all. |
I need to read it EVERY day. Letting go is my biggest challenge. I'm REALLY good at looking at the big picture, seeing what needs to be done, getting it done. It's hard for me to NOT plan. To NOT think about how things could be accomplished.
But, case in point: when negotiating my divorce settlement, it was very important for me to get a fair settlement. The ex made 75% of our joint income. (Doubting my ability to make it on my own was one reason it took me so long to leave a really bad situation). I felt it was only fair for me to get a bigger chunk of the joint assets when we split as he would be ok financially regardless. His much greater income would allow replacement of anything he lost in the divorce fairly easily.
I maintained my stand for months. We got nowhere in negotiations. Finally, I wanted so badly for it to be over and wanted so much for him to be out of my life, I came to the place where I truly no longer cared if I had "a pot to piss in" (as grandpa used to say). I was willing to walk away with nothing. I completely let go of my perception of the best way for things to work out.
Within three weeks, the divorce was final. I got everything I had been asking for and more.