aichaku, it sounds like you're in a pickle, especially since you have your boy to worry about.
It's great that you are putting your concerns in writing. I can see, and I'm sure you can, too, that this man is controlling you by giving you conflicting messages, and as Lola has pointed out, this can chip away at you and make you doubt your own perceptions. Telling you that you are too dependent on him, while at the same time making unilateral financial decisions that may affect your ability take care of yourself and your son... that's a good example of someone who is behaving in a narcissistic manner.
I think you would be wise to get professional counseling on your own, if only to bolster your own sense of what's the next right action in your life. You know that you can do therapy "in writing" if you feel more comfortable than talking? There are online therapists as well as traditional therapists who will "talk" to you via email if you're more comfortable. You'd hopefully want to graduate to in-person therapy very quickly, because in-person is how you'll be dealing with the people closest to you and your therapist will help you accomplish that powerfully.
Best wishes to you, and good for you for reaching out for help!
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