I'm in complete agreement with Jim on this. Each of us only has control over our own actions. When we try to accomodate and/or put up with anothers mistreatment, we only enable then to continue mistreating us. You and your son deserve consistency in your lives. Your son is learning valuable lessons in how to be a man and what relationships should look like by watching you and your husband. You can still love someone and detach from them at the same time. It's not easy to do, but many other women and men do it. I would reccommend talking to a therapist, on your own, and trying to find a support group of other people going through the same situation. Good luck!
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