Hey Aichaku,
I'm very sorry to hear you are in this situation. I think you already realize that your husband's instability is his problem, not yours. How should you handle the situation then? I would focus on creating stability in your own life and that of your son.
You should take the reigns of the meal times, at all times. You and your son need consistency and your husband doesn't provide that - so you'll just have to provide it for yourself. You already mention plans for becoming the stable provider of the family, which I think is a good idea.
The point is that you are in full control of your life (and for a large part that of your son too). If your husband doesn't want to deal his problems, that is his loss. Don't let him drag you down. My hope for you is that, with a little time, your husband will see the error of his ways - especially when he compares his miserable life to your shining example of stability. I really hope that is what happens.
But, if he can't even do that, please be prepared to make the only choice that is right for you and your son and cut him out of your life.
good luck,
Jim.
(I know it is a lot easier for me to write all this than for you to do it...)
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