That's funny, Jim; I assumed Magga was a female by the way *it* was talking. There I go with my gender assumptions again!
Magga, please remember that you don't make a person happy, and they don't make you happy. Your happiness is your own responsibility just as your mate's happiness is your mate's responsibility. Love (as I see it) means trusting your partner to see to their own happiness, while doing all you can to support the well-being of you both. Supporting another person's well-being doesn't mean making them happy or anything else, though, and that's where people get into trouble. Because if you consider that you make someone happy, the tendency will be to expect that they owe you the same in return, and of course that's a big fat illusion that causes grief, divorce, and little bedraggled Spears children.
Your biggest responsibility in your romantic relationship is to make yourself happy. Give your partner the gift of trusting herm to generate what (s)he chooses for hermself.
oh boy (oh girl), this gender correctness is exhausting!
p.s. one more thing about that: you may want to take a look and see what payoff you receive from "need" to make the person happy. For instance, do you consider that the person will be more connected to you if you make herm happy? Or are you proving that you are loveable or worthy on a deeper level than you're able to see consciously? Did you have a similar need to make one of your parents happy when you were a child, maybe to prove that you are loveable or valuable?
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