Leelene,
Usually it is my mom who will give me advice on every single problem I bring up when I am really just wanting someone to listen to me and empathize and not try to solve all my problems. Sometimes I get really angry at her for this. I try to tell her when I start to heat up that this time I would appreciate if she would just listen and not offer advice, and usually she is willing to do this (well, mostly!) once I make my intentions clear.
As for people giving advice when I do want advice... well, often I find that maybe there is one little nugget that resonates for me buried in a whole bunch of stuff that does not fit. Then I will meditate on and experiment with that one little idea or concept and discard the rest.
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