Wow! It sound like you have been through a lot lately! Congratulations on how far you've come already! Just making the realization that you need to make changes is a good sign. I remember when my ex husband started introducing our kids to all of his new woman. I used to feel so bad about the thought of MY children with some OTHER woman,pretending to be a cute little family! But then I started thinking, that if my children were meeting new people, and these new people cared for my kids, then my children were lucky for that. The more people that a child has to care about them, the better.
I also found, especially in the beginning that it was better for me to spend as little time listening to my ex as possible. The less you have to know, the better.
I joined Al Anon, because he was a substance abuser, and found that being in a support group was extremely helpful. I personally don't think that you need to have alcoholism in your family to go, although I bet if you looked, you'd probably find it somewhere!
Good luck with this struggle and remember that you deserve a man that loves and wants to be with you. Try to stop beating yourself up over what you think they are doing together, it's not good for you, and they are probably not having near the good time you think they are!!!
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