 What about sex
Alright, I'm a bit embarassed to ask this question, but it's a challenge I've been working on for quite a few years now.
I have a more active libedo than my wife. It wasn't always this way, but after kids now it is. She's just not interested in it. I've tried to talk about it, tried to give her what she needs, tried to express mine. Nothing works. The bottom line is I love her. I won't go outside the marriage for this.
Still, she want's nothing really to do with it. Won't talk about it. Women change. Their bodies change. Horomones change. Priorities change. Focuses change. So deal with it.
Anyway--feelings: After 3 or 4 weeks (sometimes longer--the longest we went was 9 months) of, well, no sex, I start to get very negative feelings. I get depressed, moody, insecure etc. This of course is a viscous spiral. I mean, who wants to be with a guy like that right? I can't really blame her after that.
So I try to deny my "desires." Try to live with things the way they are. Or I try to channel my sexual energy into other creative endevors. And this seems to work for awhile.
But I can't seem to sustain it.
Any advise? Thoughts?
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