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Originally Posted by NotesMaeve  I am totally in love with a guy who put his guts out there when the only deep thing he'd had with me is something I can't discuss in mixed company. If people were totally honest about feelings and intentions, wouldn't dating be easier? Why shouldn't things be like that? |
NotesMaeve, you're in a committed relationship with your guy, so there's already a relationship dynamic that's been established. But before it's established is not a good time for a guy to open up his heart, because doing so fundamentally messes up the power dynamic in a prospective relationship to his major disadvantage. Like it or not - and I've been there, so I speak from experience - as soon as a fellow does this, his value in her eyes drops immediately and irreversibly. I'm not sure why that is, frankly, but I've seen it happen over and over and over again.