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Originally Posted by JimOfferman  Thanks Angela and NotesMaeve for sharing your perspectives on this!
I understand the "he might grow on me" bit, but once you found that was not going to happen anymore, you'd stop right?
All signals were very clear during the first couple of dates, but then we ran into that thing about her past. When we then later picked up dating again, my signals were probably less clear. I was absolutely certain about what I wanted, but I was unsure if I was going to get it (seeing as I failed first time around). That uncertainty, of course, was reflected in my actions.
But yesterday was pretty extreme, in that I all but froze up. Beforehand, I'd decided that I'd better act in a way that made my intentions very clear. But when push came to show, I couldn't move a muscle. My best explanation for it is that my body somehow already knew that love was flowing only in one direction  |
See? There's a reason I'm too hungover to do anything than order pizza and surf the 'net.
NotesMaeve: Now with Perspective! 
Well, once we're talking bedroom level, I've told guys in the past that I just don't think we should hang out that way.
Jim, I'm so off the market right now, but you're a hottie. You're really funny, insightful, cool, and if I were a single woman in the Netherlands, yeah, I'd so go for it.
This chick? Not the one. A really beautiful, smart, fun woman is going to blow this last little lady out of the water, and she's going to see all the bomb qualities I see in you. I just think you needed to hear that.
I think part of what makes a soul mate a soul mate is the things that you see in the other person and that they see in you that aren't easily seen by others or that aren't even capable of being vocalized. And when you know that's in front of you, what sane person wants anything else?