Jim, I dyslexically read your thread title as: "Why don't you date someone fancy?" which made me laugh.
I was a little mixed up by your post, too. The first part sounded like your body was saying, "this one ain't gonna fly", which I thought meant: you couldn't get aroused by her, and that was your body's way of saying no way jose to your heart & mind. But then you said you were "always expecting something to happen." Is it possible that your messages to this woman were mixed, in more than one way? That would make sense, then, that you would attract a woman who was also not quite clear about what she wanted.
I think often people fool themselves into thinking that something is better than nothing, when it comes to dating. Also, I think women will keep going out with a guy even if it doesn't feel quite right, with the idea that he'll grow on her. That actually happened to some extent with me and Danger Man -- it took a few dates for me to really be sexually attracted to him. Which is odd, because he's classically handsome -- a successful model, as a matter of fact. You never know about pheromones. I don't think that happens quite as often with men -- they seem to usually either find a woman hot or not, right away.
What is that old saying, a man falls in love with a woman he's attracted to, and a woman grows attracted to the man she falls in love with?
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