 Why date someone you don't fancy?
So my date last night was a bit of a disaster (understatement). At first I blaimed the failure mostly on my lack of affirmative action. It's not that I didn't want to do something, but my body just refused to co-operate. Turns out my body is smarter than me and was just trying to say: "this one ain't gonna fly bud!". That's one lesson learned, right there - always listen to your own body! Anyway, I could not stand being in relationship-limboland any longer, so I made quite clear verbally how I felt and what I wanted. Sadly, the answer to that was no. Bummer. Heart crash. Not a good night... better luck next time, I guess.
One thing she said puzzles me a bit. She told me that when we went on dates, I was always expecting something to happen (which was true), but she didn't want that (or at least not anymore).
Why then would she still go on dates with me? When you know that someone is enamored with you and is looking to find a relationship, but you are not open to letting that happen, what good can come out of it? You're just setting everybody up to get hurt. Beats me why you'd want to do that...
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