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WrongTurn · 09-29-2007, 01:09 PM

Hey all,

Once I used to be a fit good looking lad, until I was 17 and my best mate in the whole world punched me in the fast so hard that he broke my cheek bone, eye socket and nose. ever since I have had a droopy left eye lid.

Apprently the doctors couldn't understand why the lid didn't pick back up after an op' to correct my double vission where the eye had fallen through the hole in the socket floor. After 8 years of not knowing the docs worked out I had a condition called Kearn Sayers Syndrome and this was the reason that my eye lid wouldn't come back up on it's own.

So in 2005 I had an op' on both eyes to raise the lids to a point where they were no longer in the way of the pupils. This was great at first until i crashed on my snowabord 2 months later and stuffed the left eye again!

It's hard living with a facial disfiegerment. Some people gasp on sight, some double take. Everybody looks and I can see in that split second what they are thinking, Most don't like what they see. A very small number of people don't think twice about it and just look at me as they would any other person. I assume these are just less judgemental people.

I've even had people the in stree shout things (not many over the years) and some people ask me what drugs i'm on. Even the police assume the worst when the first start to talk with me.

Anyway, all of that makes it very hard for me to have meaningful realationships with the opposite sex. Over the last 11 years I have had the odd fling here and there but mostly one night stands. I've ended up with a trail of female friends that have worked out I'm a nice enough guy but there is zero physical attration there. So I just end up making friends with new women rather than starting a relationship with them.

Am I doomed to be single forever just because I'm not as easy on the eye (no pun intended) as someone who can open both eyes?

09-29-2007, 01:09 PM	#1 (permalink)
WrongTurn Junior Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: south east England Posts: 3	sealing the deal Hey all, Once I used to be a fit good looking lad, until I was 17 and my best mate in the whole world punched me in the fast so hard that he broke my cheek bone, eye socket and nose. ever since I have had a droopy left eye lid. Apprently the doctors couldn't understand why the lid didn't pick back up after an op' to correct my double vission where the eye had fallen through the hole in the socket floor. After 8 years of not knowing the docs worked out I had a condition called Kearn Sayers Syndrome and this was the reason that my eye lid wouldn't come back up on it's own. So in 2005 I had an op' on both eyes to raise the lids to a point where they were no longer in the way of the pupils. This was great at first until i crashed on my snowabord 2 months later and stuffed the left eye again! It's hard living with a facial disfiegerment. Some people gasp on sight, some double take. Everybody looks and I can see in that split second what they are thinking, Most don't like what they see. A very small number of people don't think twice about it and just look at me as they would any other person. I assume these are just less judgemental people. I've even had people the in stree shout things (not many over the years) and some people ask me what drugs i'm on. Even the police assume the worst when the first start to talk with me. Anyway, all of that makes it very hard for me to have meaningful realationships with the opposite sex. Over the last 11 years I have had the odd fling here and there but mostly one night stands. I've ended up with a trail of female friends that have worked out I'm a nice enough guy but there is zero physical attration there. So I just end up making friends with new women rather than starting a relationship with them. Am I doomed to be single forever just because I'm not as easy on the eye (no pun intended) as someone who can open both eyes?