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Originally Posted by Angela  yeah, I can see where it would be helpful to straighten out in a relationship: "When you (did or said x), I was (hurt or threatened). It would help me feel safe in this relationship if I knew that you regretted that action and are committed not to repeat it. If you don't regret your action, or are not committed not to repeat it, that would help me a lot to know that, as well. Would you please let me know where you stand about x?"
You're not asking for anyone to change what they're being, your simply asking for clarification so you can take the action that's appropriate for your own life. If you're mystified about their future likelihood to interfere with your well-being, how could you ever have sure footing in the relationship?
So, I think it's a good idea to request clarification. Not an apology. |
^ Yet it is also a good idea to also take initiative to apologize
on our own when we do wrong. If we would like others to apologize to us when they wrong us, then why are we not apologizing to them when we do wrong?
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Originally Posted by Honeywith4bees Chado2423, I appreciate that you started this thread and got me thinking about the act of forgiveness. Apology or not, forgiveness is very important, and something that, thanks to you, I have been thinking about for the last couple of days. So, thankyou for that!! |
You're welcome. Its also something I've been thinking about for a long time, and I realized that it isn't always easy.