I have a friend at work who, after hanging out a couple of times, despite being a nice guy, I just can't see hanging out with a lot. We see each other for 8+ hours a day, and then he's very in need of approval. Between my boyfriend, other friends, and family, I simply do not have a few spare hours a week to devote to him. I also need my alone time.
Jerky as it sounds, most people only want to hang out with very close friends on a weekly basis (Guilty!) Develop a pattern of contacting the old friends, unsolicited, every two weeks. It's enough to let them know you care, but not overwhelming. Always reply to their contact promptly. On your "off weeks," go out and talk to new people.
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