when you are talking to your folks about what you wanted to do, what were your intentions ? were you seeking advice or merely making conversation ?
it seems that you are concerned about how to reciprocate to the people giving you advice, whether it is by verbally appreciating them or actually showing that you have taken their advice.
when i was younger and unsure of what i wanted for myself, i would talk to people and ask for advice. i usually ended up doing what they wanted me to do. sometimes they pointed me to a path which, upon taking, i realised it was not for me and so i had to make time and effort to reverse it. i felt frustrated just like you are.
so i decided to seek my own counsel and to be discerning before talking to people especially when i'm making a decision. i'll seek advice only from those whom i think can help, and whose opinions i respect. other than that, i would rather rely on my own instincts and be absolutely sure that whatever i'm going to do is what i truly want to do.
ultimately, it's your choice which advice to take, if any at all. since you tell them what you intend to do, they are perhaps only being kind to offer advice as they see fit. if you are getting more confused than helped, then one way is to stop talking to them about it. remove the trigger for people to give you advice.
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