[Lola]

Oh, dear. Sorry Christian223, this is not healthy advice and in fact smacks of the "she was asking for it" mentality that is frequently leveled at rape survivors. Besides, "hiding" projects a victim attitude and mentality and will likely make one more vulnerable to predators.

lightthecandle, you absolutely must never feel it necessary to hide your attributes. What you must do is get so at-ease with yourself, with your body, and with your femininity that you can strut your stuff anytime and anywhere, if you so desire, with no fear of "retribution".

I, too, got fat as a teenager as a way of covering up my feminine assets and keeping myself "safe". Your strong, healthy, beautiful body is a gift. You are absolutely entitled to care for it in a healthy manner and present it as beautifully as you choose.