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Originally Posted by lightthecandle  I don't know about other girls/women but I feel really really uncomfortable when I see/realize that a guy or guys are checking me out, top-bottom, and my back side. I don't understand..I don't even dress slutty. I guess I am pretty (now), but I still don't want that kind of attention. for example these two guys in my Bio Lab class, keep looking at me...I can see it from the corner of my eye, but i'm afraid to look at them, and i guess acknowledge it. yuuuuuuck. |
Why does it bother you? Humans are very sexual and like beauty. You're beautiful.
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I'm a nice person, and people always tell me how innocent and sweet I look...so I don't know why they're looking at me like that..I don't know if I should be mean to these guys..or give them a cold stare, or just ignore them , to make them stop?
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If you're hot, you're hot. I can't stop people from looking at me. Don't tolerate people putting their hands on you, but who cares if someone thinks you have a great ass? You probably do.
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or I guess maybe i feel really gross because I was molested when I was younger?
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I'm sorry that happened. I really am. I never was molested, but have come VERY close to being date-raped. It's humiliating and terrible, but I promise sexual attention and sexual assault are very different things. You were assaulted. Others see a beauty in you and enjoy that, not because they're predators, but because they admire and want that. You are in no way obligated to respond to that, but remember that you can't control the way people view you entirely.
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sorry if this is a strange/weird subject to talk about, or maybe I'm just supersensitive?
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It's very okay and normal to feel the way you do. I recommend taking a women's empowerment class if you can. Ducky Doolittle offers great seminars. I also love Candye Kane, but there are all sorts of great women who have experience in exactly what you're talking about that you can learn from.
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I'd like to hear some imput from guys as well, and what they're really thinking when they stare at a girl.. I don't mind if guys admire my beauty/sweetness/innocence/ , I just don't want them staring me down like a dog
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Light, sexuality is a powerful tool. It's nothing to be ashamed of.
