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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo  I have no clue how we will resolve this conflict  |
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Originally Posted by Rose of Cairo basically there are three possibilities:
1. he learns to cook meat additionally to my vegan stuff
2. he eats something else and I don't cook for him any more
3. he leaves me
the decision is his now. I'll not change my mind. |
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Originally Posted by Angela it's hard to imagine how difficult it must be to deal with such a difference in values in a relationship when it comes to this issue. |
Rose, see your bf as yourself. That's the reality of it anyway. Actually everything is you when you come down to it. You're not going to resolve this without adding some consciousness to the experience.
You (rose) eat vegan foods.
You (boyfriend) eat meat.
If you can see yourself as 'the other' the problem disappears. If you can't make that stretch, you will fight, and you will both get angry.
Consciousness knows nothing of right and wrong. It knows experiences, that's all. You can keep your feeling of righteousness if you want, or you can choose to surrender your judgments
and see what happens. (and that doesn't mean you'll have to cook meals with meat, but then again, you might.)