I like it, I think it's vital to have standards of what you want from your partners, instead of just sticking to the first person who sexaully validates you.
2 things if I may?
1) You can bring these traits out in people through "Intention Maps". There's a mail on it by my friend Sebastian. I can email you the mail if you'd like? Basically if you tell someone there's some trait that's complimentary they'll try to live up to that trait. A great example is a friend of ours, who we call the stylish one of the group. He's always late as he spends more time on his hair and clothes than we do because we called him stylish!
2) It's great if you write down what you'll bring to your perfect women, what will you give her and how will you enrich her life that no one else can? Knowing this will increase your confidence and sense of self worth. It will also increase the chances of the relationship surviving since you'll be closer to bringing equal value . A relatioship without equal value will fall apart.
I admire your bravery in posting that, very open and honest