Guilt, like blame and shame, has only one use in my life -- to show me that I'm not being present to the moment, and that I'm fighting what is. And as long as I'm caught up in one of those feelings, and being absent or fighting, I'm powerless to think or act effectively in the face of whatever triggered the guilt or blame or shame. It is incredibly self-indulgent and even harmful, I feel, to dwell in them once they've served their purpose.
Once these signposts has pointed me towards awareness of now, its job is done -- thank you, and buh bye!
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