[Brutha]

I think some ppl missed your point that this isn't an one-off occurrence, that you've had to put up with it for a while,

No, it is likely that he has the same problem that he had in this conversation on regulary basis with her.

I think it's a bit harsh to say that you played the victim when you may have been trained to be one.

I don't doubt that he "has been trained" to act like a victim. That explains his way of communicating. But it doesn't mean that he isn't responsible for behaving like that.
In addition he would get other results if he wouldn't behave like a victim.
Stating truth is harsh, but talking around it doesn't help him.

I could easily say that your gf also blew the whole thing out of proportion and manipulated you with her anger, knowing you'll back down?

The fact that it is easy to reject taking responsibilty for your actions doesn't mean that it is the benifitial.
Taking responsibilty is the hard way, but it puts you into a situation where you can do something and better the relationship.

anyway, I sympathize with you. I hope you don't become one of those people who learn to curtail their action and speech just to avoid a negative reaction from their partner.

That isn't what we (Brutha et al ) are proposing.
The problem isn't so much doing things that make her say "you drive me crazy", it is rather not taking responsibilty for it and blaming her for it, when it is the result of his own communication.