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Wrong. It's not correct to say that I've been using some "strategy" to manipulate her or anything, simply because I have done nothing. Absolutely nothing.

See, right there was your mistake.

If you two have an on-going problem, ignoring it isn't going to do you any good. Remember: 100% responsibility. If your girlfriend behaves in a way that drives you nuts, it is your problem.

However, though, yesterday I got tired of it, and it was the very first time that I decided to pursue it, simply because I could no longer stand her short temper!

So you've finally decided to deal with the issues, straight on. That was a good decision. The question is - how should your pursue it? What's the course of action you should take, in order to solve the problem?

I don't pertend to have the answers. But I think we can both agree that getting angry at her is a lousy strategy. It is a perfectly understandable human reaction, but it still is a lousy strategy which won't get either of you anywhere.

I mean, seriously, she even constantly fights with her mum and dad. Doesn't that tell you something??

Yes. It tells me that if you want a working relationship with her, it will require a lot of hard work from both of you.

I on the other hand don't fight and in fact never fight with anyone else; have lots of friends, and get along very well with everyone. It's only with her that I'm having this kind of issue.

In other words, you're the stronger one, emotionally.

According to your own statements, you are the stronger and more mature person in this relationship. And the conclusion is inevitable: You're the only one who has the needed mental strength to get you both out of this mess. Don't expect her to cooperate immediately, because she won't. And you'll need to muster every bit of personal control to address the situation without loosing your temper.

I'm not claiming that it's fair. It isn't fair at all, really. But these are the facts, fair or not.

Now you know what you're facing. So ask yourself: Is the relationship worth it? Do you love her so much, that you're willing to make such an unbalanced effort towards a resolution? Only you can answer this question.